Mother Assaulted By Teenage Daughter
Despite having protection order, 73-year-old mom assaulted by her son, in her home
Written by Jonisayi Maromo – Journalist – iol.co.za
A 73-year-old woman was assaulted by her son, in her house at Matolong village, in Taung. File Picture
Published May 5, 2024
A 41-year-old man is scheduled to appear before the Taung Magistrate’s Court on Monday after he allegedly contravened a protection order issued under the Domestic Violence Act.
Despite the existence of the protection order, the 41-year-old man allegedly assaulted his 73-year-old mother in her house, according to North West provincial police spokesperson, Colonel Adéle Myburgh.
“It is alleged that on Thursday evening, May 2 2024, the accused came home and assaulted his 73-year-old mother in her house at Matolong village, in Taung. The incident occurred after a protection order was earlier granted against her 41-year-old son,” said Myburgh. The son was arrested on Friday, shortly after the incident was reported to the police. “The suspect will be appearing before the Taung Magistrate’s Court on Monday, May 6 2024,” said Myburgh.
‘Boy was disrespectful’: Grandfather, 87, sentenced for shooting 13-year-old grandson
Written by Jonisayi Maromo – Journalist – iol.co.za
An 87-year-old man was sentenced to five years in jail after he shot and injured his grandson. File Picture
Published Mar 11, 2024
The Mhala Regional Court in Mpumalanga sentenced an 87-year-old man to five years imprisonment after he was convicted on charges of attempted murder.
The name of the convicted and sentenced octogenarian is withheld to protect the minor involved.
The Mpumalanga court heard that in August last year, the mother of the 13-year-old boy was at work when she received a call informing that her son had been attacked.
The teenager had been attacked by his grandfather, at Marite Trust near Hazyview.
“Upon arrival, she (the mother of the teenager) learned that her father had shot her son on his lower back. The child was taken to a nearby hospital,” said Mpumalanga provincial police spokesperson, Colonel Donald Mdhluli.
The grandfather informed the child’s mother that her son “was very disrespectful hence he shot him”.
When police arrived at the scene, they immediately arrested the 87-year-old man, and the police also found about 87 live ammunition in the house.
“The suspect was brought to court and went on trial. He then got convicted, hence he was sentenced to five years imprisonment. The court also declared him unfit to possess a firearm,” said Mdhluli. Meanwhile, provincial commissioner of police in Mpumalanga, Lieutenant General Semakaleng Daphney Manamela has commended the investigation team, the prosecutors, and the judiciary for the collaboration which resulted in the sentencing of the grandfather.
“We hope that the sentence will serve as a deterrence to perpetrators of crime against the minors,” she said.
Boy, 16, abused mum for eight months, fracturing her rib and threatening to kill her with chopper
Christine Tan – UPDATED Nov 21, 2024, Straits Time
SINGAPORE – A mother silently endured abuse by her 16-year-old son for at least eight months, suffering injuries that include a fractured rib.
Her husband witnessed the attacks, which took place between March and November 2022, but did not intervene.
On one occasion, the slim-built boy pulled his mother, who is about his height, into the kitchen and threatened her with a chopper, telling her “I will kill you”, court documents showed.
His brother, who was 18 then, told him he would get in trouble and advised him to put the chopper aside. He complied before the police arrived at their home, where the boy lived with his parents and brother.
The teen on Monday pleaded guilty to two counts of voluntarily causing hurt, one count of voluntarily causing grievous hurt, and another charge of criminal intimidation.
Another two charges of voluntarily causing hurt were taken into consideration for sentencing.
There is a gag order on the identities of the accused and the victim due to the boy’s age.
Deputy Public Prosecutor Kwang Jia Min said the teen had a history of hitting his mother, who was 52 years old then.
The boy, who has had anger management issues since 2019, physically assaulted her every two to three weeks. Concerned for his well-being, his parents had him referred to a family service centre for counselling. He also received help at the Institute of Mental Health, where he was assessed to have anxiety issues.
The offences were committed after he stopped attending the counselling sessions in December 2021.
In March 2022, the accused punched his mother in the face several times, bruising her jaw.
He hit her again two months later, this time causing her left cheek to swell and bruise.
On Oct 17, the teen stayed up to study for his O-level examinations until about 5am the following day.
He got up at 10am, and was angry at his mother for not waking him up earlier as he had an English exam that day. He then punched her several times.
Following the incident, the victim arranged for her son to meet his counsellor on Nov 4.
She set alarms at 15-minute intervals to wake him up on time for the session. But he smashed the alarm clock instead.
The victim ended up attending the counselling session by herself. When she returned home later that day, he accused her of not waking him up for the appointment.
He was undergoing a guidance programme at the time, and missing a counselling session meant the programme would be extended.
The boy flew into a rage and rained blows on his mother, hitting her in the ribcage area, face and head.
Her ribcage ached after the assault, and she had a cut on a lip. A medical report later revealed that she had a fracture on a left rib.
But the victim did not report her son’s actions to the police.
A few weeks later, the two of them were in his bedroom discussing which school he should enrol in after his O levels when he flew into a rage because his mother could not answer some of his questions about the school’s curriculum.
He hit his mother on the head with a hardcover report book. She ran into her bedroom, locked herself inside and called the police.
But her son found the key to the bedroom, opened the door and pulled her into the kitchen, threatening her with a chopper.
Mom tells court son assaulted her despite protection order
By Guy Rogers – 30 November 2024 – The Herald
In the midst of 16 Days of Activism for No Violence Against Women and Children, a Motherwell woman described in court on Friday how her son punched her, pushed her to the ground and called her a witch.
Phumza Rhamnculana, 67, burst into tears as she told the Motherwell magistrate’s court that her son, Siyabulela Rhamnculana, 31, had already breached one protection order she had against him…
Parental Abuse: What to Do When Your Child or Teen Hits You
By Kim Abraham, LMSW and Marney Studaker-Cordner, LMSW – Empowering Parents
If you are the target of parental abuse, you’re probably living in fear every day of what your teen will do next, always waiting for what will set off a volcanic eruption.
Parental abuse occurs when a child — usually a teenager but sometimes a pre-teen — engages in behavior that is abusive toward a parent. It may be a one-time incident or it may escalate in frequency, even to the point of a daily occurrence. It can range from verbal abuse (for example, swearing at or threatening a parent) to intimidation to outright physical assault. And although parental abuse is often associated with explosive anger and rage, the abusive behavior may occur with no emotion: a quiet, deliberate act of harm used by a teen to maintain power over a parent.
Living in Fear
Parental abuse can leave a person feeling embarrassed, ashamed, angry, terrified, and unsure of what to do. These are feelings that we call “parent paralyzers,” feelings so intense that they overtake logic and reason and leave us questioning ourselves and trapped in uncertainty about what direction to take.
If you’re in this situation with your child, know that you are not alone and that you are not different in some way. We see abuse happen in every type of family—it doesn’t matter how much money you make or your background. This type of abuse could happen in any family.
Jennifer’s Story
Jennifer’s son began hitting her when he was 14 years old. “I just didn’t know what to do,” she told us. “If anyone else had hit me, I would have called the police. But this was my son!”
“I didn’t want him arrested but I wanted the abuse to stop. I was ashamed to admit to my family what was going on and I knew they would take action, even if I didn’t. The situation was intolerable but I couldn’t take action. I felt trapped, as if I was in a car without brakes.”
Is My Child’s Behavior Abusive?
If your child or teen is harming you physically, you are being abused. It’s that plain and simple.
One man raising his granddaughter admitted, “I knew her behavior was unacceptable; she would throw things whenever she got mad and one time she hit me in the chest with an ashtray. After that, she started throwing things with the intention of hitting me. I just never thought of it as abusive.”
No one wants to believe their child could be abusive. Emotion can “muddy the waters,” make us question whether or not things are as “bad” as our gut tells us they are.
Ask yourself: if your child was anyone else — a neighbor, a co-worker — would you consider his or her actions to be assault or abusive? This will help you take the emotion out of evaluating a situation.
Warning Signs of Parental Abuse
Sometimes a situation escalates without us even realizing it. The following are some potential warning signs that a child’s behavior is bordering on abusive:
1. Feeling Intimidated
It’s normal to feel your child is pushing boundaries to get what he wants. Kids will ask over and over for something they want, until a parent can finally snap, “I told you no!”
What’s not typical is to feel that if you don’t give your child what she wants, she will retaliate in a way that is harmful to you. Intimidation is a way of frightening someone else into doing something. It may be the words, the tone of voice, or even just a look.
2. Extreme Defiance
Yes, kids can be defiant, even your typical child. But when it reaches a point that your child has no respect for your authority as a parent, outright defying the rules of your home with no fear or concern of consequences, it’s a potential sign of escalation. Many kids can be defiant without violence; however, extreme oppositional behavior can be part of a more serious picture.
3. An Escalating Pattern of Violence
Kids get angry, slam doors, throw things in a fit on the floor in their room. You can probably remember a time when you were growing up that you got mad and smashed something. But you learned that this behavior didn’t get you what you wanted and – in fact – may result in you having to re-buy things you valued.
But when a child or teen’s behavior continues to escalate to the point of destroying property, punching walls, shoving, hitting things near you, throwing things that “almost” hit you, making verbal threats, or violating your personal boundaries (“getting in your space”), this is a pattern that may indicate abusive behavior.
Why Is My Teen Abusive?
When a child or teen turns abusive, it’s natural to ask “Why?” Many parents feel guilty, blaming themselves for their teen’s behavior: “If I was a better parent, my child wouldn’t be acting this way.”
The truth is, there can be several underlying factors contributing to parental abuse including poor boundaries, substance abuse (by either a parent or child), poor coping skills, underlying psychological conditions (such as ADHD, Oppositional Defiant Disorder and Conduct Disorder) and learned behavior. Some kids behave violently due to poor coping skills. Others are more deliberate and enjoy the power that comes from intimidating a parent.
Remember: we can try to understand what’s going on in any situation, but there is no excuse or rationale for abusive behavior.
Responding to Parental Abuse
Aggressive and abusive behavior is not a part of typical childhood or adolescence. It’s not a stage that your teen will “grow out of” if you ignore it. If you’re dealing with parental abuse in your home, your child is violating the rights of others. It doesn’t matter that it’s his parent’s rights; that doesn’t make it any less serious or illegal. Your home is the place where your child will learn how to interact in the world. He is learning what’s acceptable — and what’s not. He’s learning about consequences for behavior and accountability.
One of the hardest tasks a parent can be faced with is responding to their own child’s aggression or abuse. It’s natural to feel torn. On one hand, it’s instinctual to protect your child. On the other hand, nothing can push a parent’s buttons of anger, disappointment, and hurt like a child’s abusive behavior. Some days you may feel emotionally stronger than others. Only you can decide what you’re able to follow through with at any given time. Here are some suggestions:
1. Clearly Communicate Boundaries
Make sure your child understands your physical and emotional boundaries. You may need to clearly state: “It’s not okay to yell or push or hit me.”
If you’ve said this to your child in the past, but allowed her to cross those boundaries in the past without consequence, she’s gotten mixed messages. Your words have told her one set of boundaries but your actions (by accepting being yelled at or hit) have communicated another set of boundaries.
Make sure your non-verbal communication (what you do) matches your verbal communication (what you say).
2. Clearly Communicate Consequences For Abusive Behavior
Tell your teen:
“If you hit me, throw something at me, or otherwise hurt me physically, that’s called domestic violence and assault. Even though I love you, I will call the police and you will be held accountable for your behavior.”
Then – again – make sure your actions match your words. If you don’t think you can follow through with contacting the police – don’t say you will. This will only reinforce to your child that you make “threats” that won’t be carried out.
You may choose to provide other consequences, other than legal, that you enforce. If a friend physically assaulted you, would you let her borrow your car or give her spending money the next day? Probably not.
3. Contact the Authorities
We don’t say this lightly or without understanding how difficult this can be for a parent. Some parents are outraged at a teen’s abusive behavior and react: “I’ve got no problem calling the cops on my kid if he ever raises a hand to me!” Other parents struggle, worrying about the long term consequences of contacting the police or unable to handle the thought of their child facing charges.
Remember, if your teen is behaving violently toward you now, there is the risk that this will generalize to his future relationships with a spouse, his own children, or other members of society. You are not doing him a favor by allowing him to engage in this behavior without consequence.
Related content: When to Call the Police on Your Child
4. Get Support
Parental abuse is a form of domestic violence. It’s a serious issue and needs immediate attention and intervention. Domestic violence has traditionally been characterized by silence. As hard as it is, break that silence. Get support from family or friends – anyone you think will be supportive.
If your natural supports tend to judge you and you’re afraid it will only make the situation worse, contact a local domestic violence hotline, counselor, or support group. For support and resources in your community, you can also call 2-1-1 or visit 211.org, a free and confidential service through the United Way.
The road to a healthier relationship with your child will very likely take time. There’s no shortcut or quick fix. It starts with an acknowledgment of the issue and accountability. If you’re facing this issue in your family, we wish you strength and empowerment.
Son brutally assaults his mother in Mumbai and his wife records the video.
A 13-year-old boy has been charged after police said he assaulted a mother and her son on a New Jersey street. The incident happened on June 19 on Lexington Avenue in Passaic, New Jersey. Beronica .
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Father assaults two-year-old, dumps her in tank – Tamil Nadu
KARUR: A two-year-old girl is battling for life after her 30-year-old father allegedly sexually assaulted her and dumped her in a water tank. The man has been arrested under the Pocso Act.
A senior medical officer at the government medical college hospital in Karur said the girl is currently undergoing treatment in a critical condition. The horrific crime happened during the early hours of Thursday. The girl’s parents worked at a brick kiln in their village in Karur district. The couple has a four-year-old son also.
The police complaint of the girl’s mother states the toddler went missing while she was asleep with her husband and son. She searched for her all over the home and went to the terrace where she found her skirt. Subsequently, she checked the water tank where the minor was floating unconsciously. The accused accompanied her wife during the search.
The girl was rushed to the government medical college hospital in Karur, where doctors concluded he was sexually assaulted. On Thursday, the Child Welfare Committee alerted the Karur all-woman police who, in turn, arrested the accused, police said.
Police sources say the man confessed during questioning that he took his daughter to the terrace while others were asleep. As she cried during the assault bid, he dumped her into the water tank and came back to the room and laid down as if nothing had happened. Source: New Indian Express – Tamil Nadu – Father assaults two-year-old, dumps her in tank